Its been a year since me and jepi have been together. We've been through a together already and it feels so good that we made it at this point. For me, it is a matter on how you handle a relationship and it is up to each and every one of us on how we can make it last. Here are some points that I can share with you guys:
It is a matter of mindset - Truly, having a good mindset can really set you on a direction on how you will handle your life, relationship and all the other things that you do in your daily living. It is always good to be optimistic and realistic at the same time because you would know what is attainable and at the same time, you can always set what your goals are.
Being open - Having an open communication really helps a lot specially when the two of you have a busy schedule. In our case, I work during the day and jepi works on graveyard shifts. Come to think of it, yeah. Not a lot of people can sustain that status in a relationship because both parties may give up when there's not a lot of time to spend together. Not to mention that we have a shifting schedules and offs.
Don't WAIT! ACT! - Take ownership on sacrificing some things you do which you love the most for the one you love because truly, it is either you or your partner who will see the effort in you.
Going for the extra mile - Doing something for your partner like spending a bit more of your time even though you are bombarded by work the whole day and feeling tired. Trust me, it is really a rewarding experience seeing the one you love happy on simply just being with him/her even though you are done for the day.
Honesty/Loyalty/Responsibility - Being honest and responsible for your actions is a critical part in a relationship for it to last. Who wants to have a partner who is dishonest, unfaithful and irresponsible? Nobody right? Unless you are just the type who is still in the quest on how it is to be good and bad. If you have these traits, you are on your way on being the right partner.
Acceptance - Accepting one's failures, mistakes, traits, and etc is the key on being able to love a person. Why? Because if you don't accept the things that your partner has or has been through. Trust me, you will have a weak foundation in your relationship because you may tend to have a mindset to control your partner. Being a control freak is not good.
Appreciation - Learn to appreciate everything around you. For me, it is not the grandest of things that I take notice but rather the small things that we usually take for granted on our daily life which are small things/intangible things like effort, love, time, and everything that cannot simply be acquired through wealth.
Give way, learn to listen - When your partner is telling you something, learn to listen because sometimes we need to vent out our emotions, frustrations, disappointments and etc. because it helps a lot being able to tell somebody specially your partner about how you feel for a certain matter. When your partner starts talking, just lean back and listen and afterwards, exchange your thoughts and views about that particular issue. And as the saying goes, "Each day that passes is a learning experience."
Trust - Well, really, who wants to have a partner who has no trust?
Well, these are just some points that I always take into heart when maintaining a relationship and helping it grow. I am very happy to have found these traits on jepi. I never thought that a person such as her still exist in this period of time because for a very long time, I have been searching for someone like her and I didn't expect that she is just right there.
Thank you so much for always being there for me and for making me happy. Truly, happiness cannot be bought and I will always keep my love you for you.
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away..